Parents around the world will tell you the importance of bedtime routine for everyone in the home! Bedtime Little Mouse is an adorable tale about bedtimes. Author Magali Mialaret shares some insights with us in her blog piece.
Sleep is essential for the brain of your child to flourish, but there is so much weight on bedtime and sleep, and the timing of it being at the end of the day when everyone is exhausted often makes it challenging. With Bedtime, Little Mouse, I wanted to change the narrative and make it a special moment for everyone without expectations.
Bedtime, Little Mouse has two parts. The first is a story, which is great to foster imagination and increase self-awareness. The second is a guided magical time to shift from the day rhythm to sleep rhythm, like a soft and warm blanket on a cool night. Bedtime, Little Mouse is that blanket, a moment of connection with each other, and a gentle change in breathing that sets up your child for a good night’s sleep.
When my daughter was little, around three, we started a little bedtime routine. I started to retell the story of her day as if she was a little mouse. The little mouse would go on many adventures, all parallel to what I knew had happened during her day and then do some nice feeling self-regulation exercises using mindfulness techniques.
We still use that story today (don’t tell anyone, she is 13). Maybe she doesn’t do it as much anymore but, when she is exhausted or nervous about an exam, I tell her to do the little mouse she smiles as it’s just like we are back in her bedroom when she was a toddler.
We did the little mouse routine many hundreds of times. Each time the story was different but the end was the same: the little mouse falling asleep using mindfulness practices taught by mummy mouse or daddy mouse.
Looking back at it, where did that idea come from? At the time I was following my executive coaching accreditation, studying for a postgraduate in applied neuroscience and doing a lot of yoga, I became a 500RYT teacher and kid yoga teacher.
The neuroscience course I was taking taught me many things. One of them was the power of retelling and reappraising stories or experiences, looking at the situation from a distance, like an observer. Funnily enough, this technique is used quite a lot in coaching too – and yoga was teaching me how to use breathing to relax mind and body in harmony at the end the workday.
Retelling her day, the rhythm of the routine and the relaxation at the end, was also helping me to fully be present with her and also it was very soothing for my busy mind and tense body. We connected, she fell asleep and my day at work melted away. This little mouse was magic.
Helping a little one to relax can be very difficult, but storytelling has incredible power. Through teaching yoga to children, I found out that if you tune into what the child’s energy is through story, then gently go with it to bring the story to a more relaxing rhythm the children all melt into the practice.
With a story that allows the child retell his or her day and release whatever tensions and joy came with it, then a gentle but consistent self-regulation practice, the little mouse recipe was tested,connecting body and mind. It worked for us, for my friends and for my little yogis so I created Bedtime, Little Mouse.
Another thing I learnt during my postgrad that helped me a lot is how our cardiac rhythm affects others and vice versa. As a busy parent, taking those deep breaths before entering the bedtime routine was so supportive, shifting my nervous system from the expectations of all I had to do after it, to being in the moment.
In Bedtime, Little Mouse, I want to give children all around the world the opportunity to learn how to regulate their breathing at an early age, and not in the middle of a yoga class in their 30s. The book I wrote ensures that you have the practices to support your child and yourself, teaching simple breathing patterns, gently, without expectations. The focus is less on the ‘getting to sleep’ and more on establishing a routine to connect and to make it yours – in a guided way.
Bedtime Little Mouse is published by Buster Books and is available from 3rd March.